Monthly Archives: November 2014

20 Nov

A Flying Snake Builds Confidence!

How do you build confidence in a teenager to help them stop comparing themselves to others, get over possessiveness, and find themselves? Here is the solution that presented itself for this seventeen year old young man: become a ten meter long flying green snake! ...

17 Nov

Wilber’s Pre-Trans Fallacy and  Integral Deep Listening

In the pre-trans fallacy, either the pre-rational world of belief, faith, and myth is elevated to spiritual status or the transpersonal and trans-rational developmental stages of oneness are reduced to pre-rational voodoo. ...

16 Nov

Using a Fear of Drowning to Wake Up

All of us have a basic choice: Do we want to stay stuck in our present, limited perspective or cultivate alternatives that create freedom? The amazing thing is how easy it is to access perspectives that are not only powerfully transformative, but practical and realistic. ...

16 Nov

Eliminating Blocks to Your Creativity

It is easy to allow our fears to block our creativity: “What if I fail?” “Other people will think I am stupid if I try something different.” “Nobody has done this; it won’t work.” “Why should I think I can come up with something really new and creative?” Such thoughts are self-limiting and self-destructive cognitive distortions. IDL helps to identify such self-defeating self-talk and replace it with realistic statements such as the following… ...

16 Nov

A Dream About Achieving Abundance

“Do I focus on what I have or what I don’t have?” “Do I view scarcity as an opportunity or as a source of fear and insecurity?” “How good am I at asking others for what I want or need?” “How good am I at developing a plan for abundance, getting help with it, and following it?” ...

15 Nov

An Introduction to Integral Deep Listening

Integral Deep Listening is one specific approach to dreamwork and, more broadly, personal transformation. I created it in 1980 and it has been in a constant process of development and refinement since then. ...

14 Nov

Dealing With Abuse in Love Relationships

Why do people keep making the same bad choices in relationships? Maybe they are attracted to abusers again and again. Maybe they keep going back into the same abusive situation. Why? ...

13 Nov

Surfing Your Way Out of Fear

We all have things that keep us from surfing through life, but few of us have the excuse of having our arm bitten off by a shark. Would you get back up on your board if that happened to you? ...