An Ocean Teaches Tender Compassion

Do you ever have trouble getting over a relationship?  Do you ever have trouble staying true to yourself?  If you do, you’re not alone!  As you read this lady’s interview, let it awaken within you a greater connection with spirit within!

What are three fundamental life issues that you are dealing with nowin your life?

1 Let go of my x-husband totally.  I’ve been working on it for over a year.

2 I want to trust in life and myself so that I can relax more and not over-exert. I am asking so much from myself.  I want to relax.  I feel that if I can accept myself and my life more, then something in me could relax.  Life would not be so much of a fight.

3 More confidence in myself and in my abilities.  Be courageous enough to show who I am to the world.  I have many treasures.  I doubt that I can share them.  Am I good enough?  Am I strong enough?  Can I share what I have?   There is something like a doubt!

Which issue brings up the strongest feelings for you?

The first

If those feelings had a color (or colors), what would it be?

Red and black

Imagine that color filling the space in front of you so that it has depth, height, width, and aliveness.

Now watch that color swirl, congeal, and condense into a shape. Don’t make it take a shape, just watch it and say the first thing that you see or that comes to your mind: An animal? Object? Plant? What?

A Coca-Cola bottle.  A glass one!  It’s filled with both colors!

Now remember how as a child you liked to pretend you were a teacher or a doctor?  It’s easy and fun for you to imagine that you are the shape that took form from your color and answer some questions I ask, saying the first thing that comes to your mind.  If you wait too long to answer, that’s not the character answering – that’s YOU trying to figure out the right thing to say!

Coca-Cola Bottle would you please tell me about yourself and what you are doing?

I’m big, I’m full, I’m important to her.  I’m about to explode.  Maybe she shook me too hard and I’m full of carbonation.  I feel like boiling.  She has to be careful with me.   I am in front of her to the left.  I’m pretty big.

What do you like most about yourself? What are your strengths?

I’m pretty strong.  I am under pressure.  I’m alive.  It’s a bit tight in this bottle.  I’m a bit too full.  No air.  No room!  I’m powerful.  I can affect her very easily. I can get her off center in a minute.  I’m pretty permanent.

What do you dislike most about yourself? Do you have weaknesses?  What are they?

It gets a bit boring to be me.  It’s always the same stupid movie or pattern.  I have this black and red in me and sometimes it’s confusing.  Sometimes the red is on top and sometimes the black is on top.  Sometimes they mix and it’s a bit of a mess.  I know that she doesn’t like me and that doesn’t feel good.

Coca-Cola Bottle, Dakini created you, right? What aspect of Dakini do you represent or most closely personify?

I like her weakness because then I’m strong.  She is very emotional and confused sometimes.  Very full of emotions up to exploding and trying to hold them in.

Coca-Cola Bottle, if you could be anywhere you wanted to be and take any form you desired, would you change?  If so, how?

I am a bit bored of being here, so stable and immobile next to her.  I would like to go on vacation sometimes, take another shape – greenish or bluish and be like a basin, or be an aquarium.  That feels more liberated, spacious, the colors are better, I’m more flowing and moving.  I relax my guts…I don’t have fish.  I’m more water.

(Continue, answering as the transformed object, if it chose to change.)

Aquarium, how would you score yourself 0-10, in each of the following six qualities:  confidence, compassion, wisdom, acceptance, inner peace, and witnessing?  Why?

Confidence:   9

Compassion:   8 I am not really an aquarium because I don’t have fish.

Wisdom:   9 I feel ancient and pretty wise.

Acceptance: 10

Inner Peace: 10

Witnessing:   9

Aquarium, if you scored tens in all six of these qualities, would you be different?  If so, how?

I would have beautiful, colored fish in me.  Some seaweed and sunlight coming into me.

How would Dakini’s life be different if she naturally scored like you do in all six of these qualities all the time?

She would be more relaxed, healthy, a better nervous system.  Judge less herself and others.  She would be more radiant, shining.  Happier with being on her own.

If you could live Dakini’s life for her, how would you live it differently?

I would have her do much less, not take herself so seriously.  Not make other people’s problems her own.  She would take much better care of herself.  She would work less and laugh more and drop this being a victim of life events or others!

If you could live Dakini’s waking life for her today, would you handle Dakini’s three life issues differently?  If so, how?

She would be able to let go of her x-husband completely on every level.  He is now leading another life that doesn’t have much to her.  He’s mourning that he left.  It has nothing to do with Dakini.  It’s like a habit.  I think it’s a bit stupid.

Regarding trust, I have a blankness.  I would have her work less, be more in nature.  Tune into the slowness of nature

Regarding confidence, I would let go of quite a few activities she has – construction and interior design and taking care of other people’s problems.  Dedicate time first to deep relaxation and being in nature.  Take time to self-define what she would like to do in life now and also for others.  Put it in a clearer channel. She is so versatile and multi-talented.  It tires her a lot.  She’s not taking the time to rest, relax, or focus on what she really wants to do.

What three life issues would you focus on if you were in charge of Dakini’s life?

I would focus on connecting myself with the ocean!  cries (longing and sadness) A longing to melt into something bigger and a sadness at my separation.  I want to be the ocean!  It’s vast!  It’s so big and whole!  It feels so right!

If Dakini felt like you all the time, as the ocean, how would her life be different?

She would be a lot less in her head or concerned with little issues of daily life or other people’s problems.  It would relax her on a very deep level that she is not separated but part of the whole on a very deep level and taken care of by life through the changes.  It would give her a deep sense of relaxation!

In what life situations would it be most beneficial for Dakini to imagine that she is you and act as you would?

In moments of stress, anxiety, and worry.  If she remembers to be me it will evaporate them!  Maybe not totally, but a big lump of it.  She wouldn’t take them so dramatically, so seriously, so importantly!

Aquarium, do you do drama?  If not, why not?

It feels ridiculous!

What is your secret for staying out of drama?

I’m aware of the whole and eternity and the coming and going of everything.  I’m also the waves of the ocean.  It’s more that I can watch the drama and not be it.

Why do you think that you are in Dakini’s life?

I can help her to solve these three issues in her life right now.  I can be a help to her and show her the way!

How is Dakini most likely to ignore what you are saying to her?

By getting too busy to remember.  By running around too much and not sitting down.  By drowing in her mess of documents and things!  By being too perfect in what she thinks she needs to do.  I don’t!

What would you recommend that she do about that?

Sometimes she remembers, then she forgets, then she gets into drama about it.  But she’s very dramatic!  I have a tender compassion for that.  If she felt the same it would take drama out of her drama!  It would make it more bearable for her and others.  She could get out faster if she had this tender compassion with her being dramatic.  It would be acceptance.

Dakini, what have you heard yourself say?

I heard myself say as the Ocean that the ocean is there; I can become aware of it any time I want.  I can have a tender compassion with my drama, stress, overdoing, and perfection.  I am in a strange space at the moment.

Ocean: She is a bit reluctant to repeat what I told her.  She would like to cling to the patterns that a part of her that wants to get rid of.  That part that wants to cling does not to repeat what I said.  For me it’s fine, because I have a tender compassion for her.

Everything comes and goes on its own, in its own time. Therefore I can be at ease in my own life.  Watching more, less involved.  Not taking myself and others so seriously and so self-important.  Be open to what comes and to what goes.  It is good for me to be in nature and to slow down like nature does.

If this experience were a wake-up call from your soul, what do you think it would be saying to you?

Let go! Relax!  Be yourself!  Trust yourself!  Be yourself!  Trust in life!  Feel that you are a part of the whole!  Have tender compassion for yourself!  Be much more in nature!  Slow down to the rhythm of nature!

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