Children

16 Nov

God is a Cat

I’ve always known God was really a cat. Those who taught that he was a dog are just plain heretics. Barbara’s interview is a functional mystical experience. It is a mystical experience in that it puts Barbara in touch with core qualities of enlightenment. It is functional in that Barbara can use it to get past the angry, bitter little girl that she has never made peace with. It shows her how to listen to her, to lift her up, to accept her, to comfort...

03 Aug

Kids, Divorce, and Anger

In the following interview instead of just steaming, trying to ignore her anger, or lashing out, Ella does something different and highly unusual. She listens to her anger at her X. ...

05 Jan

A Labrador Reduces Anxiety

What such interviews do is provide a way to access inner potentials that are not stuck where we are stuck. In this case, Rex accesses a part of himself that is not threatened, is not anxious, and does not worry. The theory is that the more Rex talks to and imagines that he is this part, the more he will identify with, and grow into, that innate potential. ...

23 Dec

What Could You Possibly Learn from a Tree Sloth?

This interview shows how Integral Deep Listening can help teenagers find where they can best put their energies so that they can get to the root of their unhappiness and find their inner compass that will direct them to a satisfying life. ...

15 Dec

Parable of the Chicken

The eagle guffaws. He laughs so hard he almost falls off his perch. “Kid! You gotta be kidding me! Are you blind, delusional, or just stupid? YOU’RE AN EAGLE!!!” ...

13 Dec

Aquilam the Eagle Brings Gifts of Confidence and Inner Peace

Kids today have lots of challenges. If we can put them in touch with their inner compass when they are young, we can save them much unnecessary pain as they grow up. In this IDL interview, Okrim accesses his inner potentials in a beautiful, fun, and powerful way. ...

28 Sep

Is Your Critical Self Talk Ruining Your Life?

The devil part of Luna thinks she is stupid to allow herself to be scared by it. It sees the proper response as self-confidence and to give up playing the victim. It makes clear that it represents her own highly self-critical self-talk that makes her wrong and scared. It recommends that she just ignore her self-critical self-talk. If she does, it predicts that it will go away. ...

27 Sep

The Devil On Your Shoulder

This is an interview I wish I could do with every child or adolescent.  It is so classic that I think most children can see themselves in it, and most adults as well.  We all have a “devil” sitting on our shoulder telling us we can’t, shouldn’t, or won’t. The beauty of Integral Deep Listening, particularly for a child who is suffering from such self-criticism and fear of failure is that after they have done an interview they have...

18 Aug

Distant Family: Bridging the Gulf

When we get older, three issues tend to destroy our happiness: family problems or distance, health, and money. As we age, our options for changing these things diminish; we are pretty much stuck with the family, health, and money that we have or don’t have, and now our challenge is how to accept the fact that much of what used to be important to us in the external world is beyond our control. Acceptance becomes increasingly important, without...