Escaping Drama

14 Nov

Dealing With Abuse in Love Relationships

Why do people keep making the same bad choices in relationships? Maybe they are attracted to abusers again and again. Maybe they keep going back into the same abusive situation. Why? ...

13 Nov

Surfing Your Way Out of Fear

We all have things that keep us from surfing through life, but few of us have the excuse of having our arm bitten off by a shark. Would you get back up on your board if that happened to you? ...

03 Nov

Exiting the Drama Triangle

The Drama Triangle is a modern reframing of karma, avidya (ignorance), and dukkha (suffering), created by addiction to the three roles of victim, rescuer, and persecutor. For Integral Deep Listening it occurs in three realms: the interpersonal, your thoughts and feelings, and your dreams. Because there is no peace of mind or clarity of action from within the Drama Triangle, a priority of IDL is to help you get out. ...

20 Oct

The Grim Reaper

Because we rarely or ever ask questions or question our own judgment while we are dreaming, we assume we are awake and dealing with genuine circumstances or threats. The result is that the dream, as remembered, is a narrative that serves to confirm our waking delusions. ...

10 Oct

What If My Life Doesn’t Turn Out Like I Want?

Integral Deep Listening invites you to imagine your catastrophic expectations to surface your fears so that you can listen to them, respect them, and use them as allies in your development. ...

10 Oct

Dream Lucidity as Self-Rescuing

Are there any activities undertaken in pursuit of enlightenment, including lucid dreaming, that are never attempts at self-rescue? Of course there are, but the assumption of self-rescue is a reasonable and wise default position. ...

08 Oct

Interviewing Dog Shit

What could be more sacrilegious and useless than imagining you are interviewing a pile of dog shit? Doing so challenges every assumption about value and reality that most of us take for granted. And that’s exactly the point. Are those assumptions real? Are they useful? What do you discover when you suspend them? Tony, for one, was surprised at what he learned… ...

20 Sep

Transformation Using a Fearful, Scripting Childhood Dream

You can change the course of the life of the children you know by interviewing their dream characters using Integral Deep Listening. In addition, any adult can heal from childhood traumas by using IDL to access emerging potentials that heal, balance, and transform. ...

03 Sep

The Myth of Plato’s Cave: A modern retelling

You can spend your life locked in the cellar of your own fears, manufacturing threatening people and situations to keep yourself stuck, or you can “wake up” and realize that this is a self-created drama, and spend your life “surfing” instead. ...