We cannot not fly in our lives until we deal with the tethers of trying to please others. You may one day find yourself in the sixth decade of your life and still be grounded – until you do. What to do? All of us have these bonds from our childhood years when we could not feel good about ourselves unless we pleased our parents, caretakers, and teachers. As we grew older, this need transferred to our peers, our bosses, our co-workers, our government, our spouses, and even our children. As a result, instead of listening to ourselves and pleasing ourselves, we easily find that we spend our lives torn between pleasing first this person, and then another who holds quite different expectations for us than did the first or that we have for ourselves. The result is that we please no one, particularly ourselves. Your mother and father are still alive, living rent-free inside your head. So are those bullies that teased you when you were six. Which inner voices do we listen to, and when? Which voices is it time to evict?
Your inner compass shows up in both your dreams and the challenges daily life brings to you. It is always trying to wake you up to the craziness of trying to please others. Your inner compass is constantly trying to help you see how you keep yourself trapped and show you the way out. Are you listening?
In the following dream and interview, Beautiful Dreamer demonstrates how you can use IDL to better understand this predicament and grow into a life that feels free and authentic for you.
What are three fundamental life issues that you are dealing with now in your life?
1. To have my own book store and hour radio talk show,
2. To have a loving supportive partner in life,
3. To swim with the dolphins
Tell me your dream:
I have no idea why I had this dream. I will end up interviewing two characters so I will change the color of their answers to make this easier to read.
Owl, how would you score yourself from 0-10 in;
Acceptance 10 , wisdom 10 , compassion 10 , peace of mind 10 , confidence 10 and witness 10 .