Persecutor Role
Attack, blame, and shame create defensive reactions and block grounded perception.
Victim Role
Helplessness and powerlessness reinforce stuck states and block agency and transformation.
Rescuer Role
Over-helping disempowers others and sustains drama while blocking responsibility.
The Drama Triangle has three interchangeable roles that people unconsciously switch between: Persecutor, Victim, and Rescuer.
People rotate through these roles rapidly—even within a single conversation. These roles are inauthentic and keep everyone stuck in repetitive cycles that drain energy.
Example: A partner (Victim) complains endlessly about their boss. The other partner jumps in as Rescuer. When the Victim refuses advice, the Rescuer becomes Persecutor. The cycle then spins again.
Why it matters:
- Explains why conflicts intensify but never resolve.
- Prevents real problem-solving and accountability.
- Drains energy and damages relationships.
- Creates codependency, burnout, and chronic conflict.
IDL observes that the Drama Triangle shows up in relationships, thinking, and dreams. Understanding all three is necessary to break the pattern.
Reflection Questions:
- How does the Drama Triangle show up in your life?
- How would your life be different without it?
- How important is escaping the Drama Triangle to your well-being?
- What steps do you need to take to eliminate it?