Testing Dreaming Healthy Families
When one family member, even a child, learns the interviewing process, they can share it with their other family members. Any child old enough to read the questions from the interviewing protocols can lead a parent, brother or sister through an interview. In this way two amazing things can happen. First, the interior culture of the dreamer becomes healthier, more balanced, and integrated. Second, by sharing the interviewing process, the culture of the entire family becomes healthier, more balanced, and integrated. Our research predicts that there will be fewer family arguments and conflicts. Life will flow smoother, with fewer misunderstandings and hurt feelings.
These predictions are meant to be tested, first in our own lives and then in the lives of others: “From the inside out.” Personal experience of no more nightmares or improved family relationships, while of central importance to us, requires collective validation. Others have questions that need good answers. IDL has developed testing protocols meant to generate published studies to be evaluated and validated by professionals in their own practices.
How do I know that Dreaming Healthy Families is really helping my family or instead, we are just fooling ourselves?
Credibility comes from changes that can be measured. The most basic and important gauge as to whether Dreaming Healthy Families is helping your family is whether or not your family members feel heard, listened to, and respected. This is because you can have respect without love, but you can’t have love without respect. Respect is foundational to all relationships, and it needs to start at home, between partners, parents and children. Dreaming Healthy Families creates harmony, health, and happiness primarily through increasing mutual respect in your family.
When you decide to tackle a specific recommendation, you need to make sure it is realistic. It has to be broken down into bite-sized pieces where every day you and your family members can tell if you are headed in the right direction or not.
A shared “to do” app or a simple chart on the refrigerator where you can check off when you have done something you decided to do (or not do), like yell or be critical, or where your family members can give you a score, say zero to ten, can be used.
Family interviewing sessions, preferably weekly, say on a Sunday before the start of a new week, keeps everyone on track.
For more information, contact Joseph.Dillard@gmail.com.
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