How do I know that Dreaming Healthy Families is really helping my family or instead, we are just fooling ourselves?
Dreaming Healthy families is an outgrowth of Integral Deep Listening (IDL), a transpersonally-oriented approach to healing, balancing, and transforming our lives. IDL is itself an outgrowth of Dream Sociometry, a form of dream yoga that has its foundations in the sociometric methods of JL Moreno, MD, creator of psychodrama, many action forms of encounter, and coiner of the term “group psychotherapy.”
Interviews of dream characters and the personifications of life issues have been shown to be effective at eliminating nightmares, the symptoms of PTSD, phobias, and life stress. This research project is designed to quantify those benefits through the use of the Burns Anxiety Inventory as a pre/post measurement.
Among geriatric populations loneliness is a common issue. Will interviewing show a reduction in loneliness? To measure the same we will use the UCLA Three Item Loneliness Scale.
Because research has shown a correlation between a decrease in loneliness and wisdom, as measured by the San Diego Wisdom Scale, Wisdom has several components, such as empathy, compassion, self-reflection and emotional regulation. Researchers found that empathy and compassion had the strongest inverse correlation with loneliness. People who were more compassionate were less lonely. David Brenner, MD, vice chancellor of UC San Diego Health Sciences, has said, “If we can increase someone’s compassion, wisdom is likely to go up and loneliness is likely to go down.” IDL interviewing has been shown to increase both compassion and empathy. Therefore, Dreaming Healthy Families is designed to not only show that link but increase wisdom, compassion, and empathy in all of our relationships.
Credibility comes from changes that can be measured. The most basic and important gauge as to whether Dreaming Healthy Families is helping your family is whether or not your family members feel heard, listened to, and respected. This is because you can have respect without love, but you can’t have love without respect. Respect is foundational to all relationships, and it needs to start at home, between partners, parents and children. Dreaming Healthy Families creates harmony, health, and happiness primarily through increasing mutual respect in your family.
When you decide to tackle a specific recommendation, you need to make sure it is realistic. It has to be broken down into bite-sized pieces where every day you and your family members can tell if you are headed in the right direction or not.
A shared “to do” app or a simple chart on the refrigerator where you can check off when you have done something you decided to do (or not do), like yell or be critical, or where your family members can give you a score, say zero to ten, can be used.
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