Video Curricula

Welcome to the Integral Deep Listening Video Curricula!

Are you interested in learning how to interpret your dreams without relying on experts or your own best guesses?

Are you interested in using your dreams to get out of your own way by reducing stress, anxiety, depression, addictions, and problems with interpersonal relations?

Are you interested in approaching your own development from a transpersonal perspective?

Are you interested in learning how to direct your development by the priorities of your own unique life compass rather than by your familial, social, cultural scripting, or by your own best guess at what your priorities ought to be?

Are you interested in learning how to treat the life issues that matter to you as if they were waking dreams and interview visual representations of them as if they were dream characters in order to better understand your life issue and access creative and useful ways to resolve it?

Are you interested in learning IDL interviewing protocols for interviewing dreams, life issues, current, historical, and fictional events as well as mystical, near death, psychic, and synchronistic experiences?

Do you want to learn how to interview children, friends, family members, and clients?

Are you interested in gaining the skill sets and knowledge to become an IDL Coach, in which you help others solve practical life problems?

Are you interested in gaining the skill sets and knowledge to become an IDL Practitioner, in which you help others to move beyond major blocks to their own development?

The Integral Deep Listening Video Curricula provides you with the opportunity to learn IDL from its originator, Joseph Dillard, LCSW, PhD.

Each video is purposefully short and compact, generally under seven minutes in length, allowing learning to occur in time blocks manageable for all.

This curricula is designed to provide two basic skills: 1) effective interviewing of self and others and 2) a series of life skills that, when used in conjunction with IDL interviewing, enhance healing, balancing, and transformation.

Together, this skill set is intended to stand the tests of time. That means that as you grow, change, and evolve, these tools will continue to provide support and direction.

Students of this curricula are linked via “Friends of IDL” on Facebook so that they can study, interview, and grow together.

The overall goal of teaching you this curricula is set out in “Dreaming Healthy Families” on this website. In essence, it is to change global culture from the inside out: we align our own priorities with those of our life compass and teach others, particularly future generations, to do the same. The consequence is that personal and collective decision making is no longer driven by news cycles, the “management of consent,” or by our personal and collective scripting, but rather is an expression of our own authentic and most fundamental experience of goodness, truth, balance, and justice.

The IDL video curricula is meant to be studied with a partner or study group of your own making, and there is an order of learning that has been found to be most effective.

First, there are a series of introductory videos that are designed to orient students or potential coaches or practitioners to what Integral Deep Listening is. While introductory, some of this material will only be understood after one has some experience with both interviewing and the various other skill sets taught in subsequent videos.  So some of these can be left for later or returned to when you want to have a deeper understanding of what you are learning ties in to basic concepts of IDL. Topics followed by an (“A”) are Advanced.

There is a series of instructional videos on interviewing dreams, life issues, and Dream Sociometry. While students need to learn how to use the on-line interviewing protocols, because interviewing both your own dreams and life issues and also those of others is a fundamental skill set for IDL, Dream Sociometry, which interviews multiple perspectives in depth, is for IDL Practitioners and those who want to do research.

There is also a series of videos on the various vital and exciting adjunct integral life practices of IDL: learning and transcending your life scripting, escaping the Drama Triangle in the Three Realms, recognizing and avoiding cognitive distortions, biases, and logical fallacies, goal setting, triangulation, assertiveness, pranayama, meditation, and setting intention.

For those who want more depth, all of this material is available in various books and also in written material on this website, and those who desire to become Coaches and Practitioners of IDL will want to supplement this video curricula with that in-depth written material.

IDL evolves. It is not like Athena, jumping full grown out of the head of Zeus. It is just a baby, meant to evolve as you internalize the foundation that has been laid and then improve upon it. But good improvisers build on a mastery of the basics. It is important for you to approach this yoga, or transpersonal discas seriously as you would the learning of any course of study leading to a life profession.

The concepts in this curricula are meant to be tested by you. For this yoga to be authentic to you these concepts and practices have to gain your trust, based on their applicability for your life and for addressing the very real and serious issues confronting those in your own sphere of influence. Therefore, approach it with an empirical mind set. Ask, “How and why is this true?” “How do I know that this really works?” “How do I verify my findings?” If you can answer positively such questions for yourself, you will become a good student, Coach, or Practitioner of IDL.

Here is an outline of the topics covered by videos in this curriculum:

Introduction to the IDL On Line Video Curricula

What Is Integral Deep Listening (IDL)?

Integral Deep Listening is a Yoga

  A DREAM Yoga: Are Dreams Illusory or Real?

   2: How Our Worldview Creates Our Reality

   3: Our Different States of Consciousness

   4: Transpersonal States are NOT Transpersonal Stages

   5: The Importance of Empiricism

   6: The Worldview of IDL

   7: The Ethical Foundations of IDL

An Integral Life Practice

   How is Integral Deep Listening a Transpersonal Practice?

     Holons

IDL is a Self-Development Methodology 1: Varieties of Self-Development

IDL is a Self-Developmental Methodology 2:  States, Lines, and Stages

An Emerging Potential Interviewing methodology

   What are “Emerging Potentials?”

   How and Why Does IDL Interviewing Work?

     Benefits of Interviewing Yourself

     Benefits of Interviewing Others

A Way of accessing the priorities of your life compass

  What is Your Life Compass?

Suggestions for Introducing Others to IDL Interviewing

How to Hold Your Own Integral Deep Listening Salons

Getting Started With IDL On Line Interviewing

The IDL On Line Dream Interviewing Protocol

1: Choosing Life Issues

2: Choosing and Writing Down a Dream and Your Associations to It.

3: Providing a Date, Name, and Deciding Who to Interview

4: Taking the Perspective of an Interviewed Character

5: Personifications and Possible Transformations

6: Addressing Life Changes

7: Application of Recommendations and Character Dream Interpretation

8: Integrating What You Have Heard: Adding Your Interpretation and Those of Others

The IDL On Line Life Issue Interviewing Protocol

1: Similarities and Differences from the Dream Interviewing Protocol

2: Generation of the Personification of a Chosen Life Issue for Interviewing

Introduction to Integral Deep Listening Guided Interviewing

   An IDL Short Guided Dream Interviewing Protocol

   An IDL Short Guided Life Issue Interviewing Protocol

  An IDL Regular Guided Dream Interviewing Protocol

  An IDL Regular Guided Life Issue Interviewing Protocol

  An IDL Children’s Dream Character Interviewing Protocol

  An IDL Children’s Life Issue Interviewing Protocol

  An IDL Adolescent Dream Character Interviewing Protocol

  An IDL Adolescent Life Issue Interviewing Protocol

Reading Back the Interview

Explanation of elements of the Longer Interviewing Protocols

   A More Thorough Guided Dream Interviewing Protocol

   A More thorough Guided Life Issue Interviewing Protocol

Integral Deep Listening for Kids

Why you need to interview the children in your world.

Why the children in your world need to interview YOU.

Why Children Learn IDL Quicker than Therapists, Counselors, and Psychiatrists

The IDL On Line Dream Sociometry Interviewing Protocol (A)

1: Purposes of Dream Sociometry

2: Overview of the Dream Sociomatrix

3: Overview of the Dream Sociogram

4. Creating or Filling Out the Dream Sociomatrix

5. The Various Dream Sociometric Commentaries and their Purposes

6. Interpreting the Dream Sociogram

7. Conducting Research with Dream Sociometry

IDL as a Transpersonal Integral Life Practice

How We Use Our Defense Mechanisms to Sleepwalk and Avoid Waking Up

Why Recognizing Your Life Script is So Important: 1

 Uncovering Your Life Script: 2

 Games, the Drama Triangle, and Your Life Script: 3

 Uncovering Your Life Position: 4

 How Parental Injunctions and Counter Injunctions Create Your Life Script: 5

 How Scripted “Acceptable” Feelings Create an Inauthentic Script; 6

 Freeing Yourself from Your Life Script; 7

The Drama Triangle: Why it is Used By Integral Deep Listening

 2: The Role of Victim

 3: The Role of Persecutor

 4: The Role of Rescuer

 5: Dealing with Fallout from Leaving the Drama Triangle

 6: Why it is Important in Your Life

 7: Escaping the Drama Triangle: Identifying and Avoiding Target Words

How We Use Our Defense Mechanisms and Avoid Waking Up

An Introduction to Cognitive Biases, Distortions, and Logical Fallacies

Recognizing and Avoiding Your Cognitive Biases 1

Recognizing and Avoiding Your Cognitive Biases 2

Recognizing and Avoiding Your Cognitive Biases 3

Recognizing and Avoiding Your Cognitive Biases 4

Recognizing and Avoiding Your Cognitive Biases 5

Recognizing and Avoiding Your Cognitive Biases 6

Recognizing and Defusing Your Cognitive Distortions 1

Cognitive Distortions 2: Black and White/Polarized Thinking

Cognitive Distortions 3: Overgeneralization

Cognitive Distortions 4: Filtering

Cognitive Distortions 5: Jumping to Conclusions

Cognitive Distortions 6: Catastrophization

Cognitive Distortions 7: Personalization

Cognitive Distortions 8: Emotional Reasoning

Cognitive Distortions 9: The Fallacy of Fairness

Cognitive Distortions 16: Control Fallacies

Cognitive Distortions 10: Blaming

Cognitive Distortions 11: “Should-ing” on Yourself

Cognitive Distortions 12: The Fallacy of Change or “Waiting for Santa Claus”

Cognitive Distortions 13: Global Labeling

Cognitive Distortions 14:

Cognitive Distortions 15: Heaven’s Reward Fallacy

Cognitive Distortions 16: Control Fallacies

Cognitive Distortions 17: “I’m Right”

Cognitive Distortions 18: The Pre/Trans Fallacy

Cognitive Distortions: Summary: Getting Rid of Your Cognitive Distortions

 Identifying and Defusing Your Logical Fallacies

Setting Realistic and Achievable Goals

  Applying Recommendations the SMART Way

Deep Listening for Problem Solving: Triangulation

Seven Octaves of Transformation: IDL Pranayama

 Sources of Pranayama

 Observation of breath

 Observation with life processes

 Observation with Support and Gratefulness 

 Observation with Attitudes

 Observation with Transformational Affect

 Observation with the Via Negativa

 Observation as Life

Meditation: Naming Your Thoughts

The Importance of Setting Intention

Core IDL Values

Gratitude

Cosmic Humor

Luminosity

Applications (A)

 Addressing Childhood Trauma

 ADHD

 Anxiety Disorders

 Phobias

 Depression

 Personality Disorders

 Interpersonal issues

IDL for Stress Management

 IDL Interviewing reverses the contracture of the self

What to do if your Subject has a “Melt Down” in the Middle of an Interview

 Understanding the Interviewing Protocol Questions

 Correcting Common Misunderstandings of IDL Interviewing (A)

 IDL Interviewing shouldn’t and can’t work

 Dealing with Resistance

How are Dreams Created? (A)

  Dream Creation and Chaos Theory (A)

Integral AQAL and IDL Dream Interpretation, Compared (A)

Metaphorical vs. Symbolic Approaches to Dream Interpretation

IDL and Lucidity

Topics in green in the outline below have been published and are available for online viewing by clicking the link. You can also copy the link and view these videos off-line, if you prefer.

Introduction to the IDL On Line Video Curricula

What Is IDL?

Far more than an effective means of dream interpretation, nightmare elimination, anxiety reduction, and treatment for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, Integral Deep Listening (IDL) provides a way to compensate for your familial and socio-cultural scripting, which largely has created your identity while insuring your life is a product of the prevailing zeitgeist, values, norms, beliefs, habits, ideologies, hopes, fears, and dreams. IDL provides tools for breaking out of your socially-conditioned identity while giving you regular, predictable access to transpersonal states of consciousness and emerging potentials that point you toward your own unique life compass. Information about IDL can be found at IntegralDeepListening.Com, DreamYoga.com, and at Friends of IDL on Facebook.

How is Integral Deep Listening a Transpersonal Practice?

Becoming dream houses, cars, robbers, and toilet brushes is, on the face of it, absurd. By “absurd,” I mean irrational, pointless, and ridiculous, something the Mad Hatter or the March Hare in Alice in Wonderland might recommend. This absurdity has the advantage of having us not take ourselves or our life dramas so seriously, which means that we objectify instead of personalizing them. On the other hand, what are we to make of it when something of astounding clarity, relevance, and functionality comes out of the mouth of a wombat or spit on a sidewalk? What is absurd, pointless, ridiculous, or irrational about perspectives, regardless of their appearance or source, that provide breakthrough realizations that improve our lives?  It is in this regard that Integral Deep Listening is a transpersonal practice:

An Integral Life Practice

IDL is a Self-Development Methodology 1: Varieties of Self-Development

There are three varieties of self-development: remedial, adaptational, and transpersonal. Remedial is the realm of psychotherapy and IDL Practitioners. Adaptational is the realm of coaching and IDL Coaches and Practitioners. Transpersonal is the realm of transpersonal state access and experiential multi-perspectivalisms, including IDL Coaches and Practitioners. For the complete IDL Video Curricula, see IntegralDeepListening.Com

IDL is a Self-Development Methodology 2: States, Lines, and Stages

Because transpersonal states, such as varieties of mysticism and near death experiences are accessible at all stages of development, in contrast to what is commonly assumed, they do not indicate higher stage development. Stage to stage development, that is, from pre, mid-, and late prepersonal and personal, into the transpersonal, is dependent on the balanced development of at least three core lines: cognition, the self-system, and the moral line. If one of these lines is fixated or regressed in its development, overall development from stage to stage cannot occur, although an individual may be a non-dual meditator or a gifted transmitter of transpersonal awareness. IDL addresses this reality by focusing on balanced development based on triangulation: the consultation of external sources, subjective sources of objectivity, that is, interviewed dream characters and personifications of life issues, and one’s own common sense, rather than the quest for “enlightenment,” which history has shown has generally led to imbalanced development, leading to dysfunction, major deficiencies, and collapse. The full IDL video curricula can be found at IntegralDeepListening.Com.

An Emerging Potential Interviewing methodology

What are “Emerging Potentials?”

Benefits of Interviewing Yourself

Benefits of Interviewing Others

Why Listen to Your Dreams?

How and Why Does IDL Interviewing Work?

How are Dreams Created? (A)

Dream Creation and Chaos Theory (A)

  Integral AQAL and IDL Dream Interpretation, Compared (A)

  Metaphorical vs. Symbolic Approaches to Dream Interpretation

A Way of accessing the priorities of your life compass

 What is Your Life Compass?

“Life Compass” is a concept derived from the comments, over decades, of interviewed dream characters and personifications of life issues, both of myself and others whom I have interviewed. It is not a metaphysical concept, a priori axiom, religious dogma, or spiritual principle like say, “dharma” is for Hinduism and Buddhism. The concept of “life compass” is a hypothetical construct that may or may not exist. It’s not an ontological reality but more of a process and possibility that is pointed toward by multiple recommendations by multiple interviewed emerging potentials. It can be compared to a gyroscope on a satellite that keeps it oriented in space by spinning on its own self-generated center of energy. Hurricanes and tornadoes do something similar. The vibratory fields of molecules, atoms, and quarks are other examples. In other words, “life compass” is meant to refer to a purely naturalistic reality, not a metaphysical, religious, or spiritual one. 

IDL is A Yoga

Yogas are physical, mental, or transpersonal disciplines that unite us with experiences of the sacred. Integral Deep Listening is a yoga that uses interviewing dream characters and the personifications of life issues that are central to your life in order to access your emerging potentials and align your priorities with those of your own unique life compass.

IDL is a DREAM Yoga: Are Dreams Illusory or Real?

Dreams have a great deal to teach us about the illusoriness of life and waking life has a great deal to teach us about the reality of dreams! In this video we discuss the interdependence of dreaming and waking, of subjectivity and objectivity, and how a balanced life needs to be built on the foundation of a transformational transpersonal yoga that integrates these two critical states of our life experience.

How Our Worldview Creates Our Reality

Whether we think dreams are illusory, real, both or neither; whether we regard our waking lives as real, illusory, both, or neither, impacts how we approach life. Integral Deep Listening finds merit in all these positions and its practices reflect that worldview.

Our Different States of Consciousness

What are the differences among waking, dreaming, deep sleep, and non-dual turiya? What is the relationship between how the dreaming and deep sleep states are described in classical Hindu and contemporary spirituality, on the one hand, and science, on the other? How does that affect how Integral Deep Listening approaches them? This is the third in a series of videos on IDL as a dream yoga.

Transpersonal States are NOT Transpersonal Stages

Once one understands what a yoga is and is not, what a DREAM yoga is and is not, and the various varieties of states, it’s time to understand the difference between state access and stable developmental stage acquisition. The reason this distinction is important for IDL is that it does not make claims of higher stage development but rather demonstrates that regular, ongoing access to transpersonal states through IDL interviewing and other aspects of IDL that get self and the Self out of the way, generates stability, balance, and access to the priorities of one’s own unique life compass.

The Importance of Empiricism

Integral Deep Listening recognizes that for any investigation of states, including the dream state, that is going to include an integral life practice or yoga, to stand the tests of time, it must address all four quadrants of holons. This means that it not only must respect interior personal and mystical experience and interpretations thereof, but also the findings of empirical science, and reconcile these dimensions where they disagree. This short video attempts to lay out the basis on which IDL attempts to do so.

The Worldview of IDL

With the background of the previous introductory videos, it’s time to explain what it means that Integral Deep Listening is not simply multi-perspectival but is a variety of experiential multi-perspectivalism. In addition, it is important to understand what it means to say it is “polycentric,” or “cosmocentric” rather than psychologically geocentric or heliocentric. These distinctions grow out of IDL interviewing and create a framework for understanding all of the various integral life practices of IDL.

The Ethical Foundations of IDL

We generally don’t associate ethics with dreams and dreaming. However, the interviewing of multiple intrasocial perspectives creates a context that requires not only respect, but a reciprocity of respect in mutual relationships. It also presents the necessity of the consideration of trustworthiness and empathy regarding interior and collective relationships. The implications of the demonstration and evolution of respect, reciprocity, trust, and empathy in the interior collective dimensions of holons is profound, because it allows for the balancing and development of both individual and collective holons in ways that did not previously exist when these possibilities were not recognized or ignored.

Suggestions for Introducing Others to IDL Interviewing

IDL Interviewing of dream characters and the personifications of life issues is fun, powerful, and intimate. As a result, interviewing others can be extremely valuable, meaningful, and rewarding, but at the same time, problematic. This is because fun, power, and intimacy don’t always go together. Fun can often mean an escape from intimacy. Power can be manipulative and also an escape from honesty and intimacy. Intimacy can be threatening. Both intimacy and power can undermine our sense of personal control over our lives. What looks fun at the beginning can turn into something that is dead serious. Here are several recommendations for how to approach introducing IDL interviewing to others.

How to Hold Your Own Integral Deep Listening Salons

Group dream interpretation often involves everyone projecting their own associations onto a dream until the dreamer says “Aha!” “That fits!” “That makes sense!” Integral Deep Listening (IDL) Salons are different. People answer as the characters in their dreams, nightmares, or as the personifications of life issues important to them. Instead of hearing our interpretations, or those of others, we first hear the interpretations of one or more perspective that is actually embedded in the dream or life issue, and is therefore in a position to have an invested point of view regarding why we had the dream, what it means, and why we are confronted with this or that life issue and what to do about it. In a group setting this process of hearing from a menagerie of imaginary images is fun, interesting, and exciting adventure in discovery, both of ourselves and in our deeper understanding and appreciation of each other.

Getting Started With IDL On Line Interviewing

IDL online interviewing is fun, easy, effective, and highly useful. IDL interviewing has proven effective at reducing fear, worry, anxiety, nightmares, phobias, symptoms of PTSD, and building stronger relationships. It’s fun to interview your dream characters and those of your children and friends, and you will share the fun and growth when they interview you as well.
It’s easy to do online interviewing because all you have to do is write the answers the interviewed characters give to the questions in the interviewing protocol. IDL Interviewing instructions and much more is available at IntegralDeepListening.Com. Contact us at Joseph.Dillard@gmail.com.

The IDL On Line Dream Interviewing Protocol

1: Choosing Life Issues

In this series of videos you will learn how to use the IDL on line interviewing protocol to interview dream and nightmare characters of your choice! The on line protocol allows you to save your interview or, if you are interviewing someone else, send a copy to them! This process is a powerful and effective way to arrive at interpretations of your dreams that not only make sense but are useful, because they provide concrete recommendations you can use to both heal, balance, and transform your life and to test the method.

In this series of videos you will learn how to use the IDL on line interviewing protocol to interview dream and nightmare characters of your choice! The on line protocol allows you to save your interview or, if you are interviewing someone else, send a copy to them! This process is a powerful and effective way to arrive at interpretations of your dreams that not only make sense but are useful, because they provide concrete recommendations you can use to both heal, balance, and transform your life and to test the method.

2: Choosing and Writing Down a Dream and Your Associations to It.

As an example of filling out the on-line interviewing protocol, I share a nightmare I had many years ago as well as my associations to it.

3: Providing a Date, Name, and Deciding Who to Interview

How to add a title and name in the on-line interviewing protocol and important information about how to choose a character to interview.

4: Taking the Perspective of an Interviewed Character

The critical piece of IDL interviewing is your ability to step aside and let your chosen character have its voice and spontaneously answer as it chooses. These initial questions are designed to help you authentically take its perspective. At the same time, you are learning more about how to fill out the on-line interviewing format.

5: Personifications and Possible Transformations

What aspects of yourself does your interviewed character say it most closely personifies? Does it want to transform? If so, how? Noting these responses in the protocol

6: Addressing Life Changes

Interviewed dream characters make recommendations that are meant be operationalized to test in your life. Do they support the resolution of life issues important to you?

7: Application of Recommendations and Character Dream Interpretation

Your interviewed dream character will most likely have recommendations to make regarding your life issues. What are they? How useful are they? What do you want to do with the ones that make sense to you and are practical? In addition, your character is given the opportunity to provide ITS interpretation of your dream, which may be very different from your own!

8: Integrating What You Have Heard: Adding Your Interpretation and Those of Others

When we interview others we often recognize issues and receive value for ourselves in our lives. The feedback of others, in terms of what they have heard and how they are integrating and applying the perspective of the interviewed dream character is generally a valuable resource. Dreamers are surprised how much their interview resonates with others, and others are often surprised at how the interview awakens within them goodness, truth, and harmony that is rich and fulfilling. The IDL video curricula is listed at IntegralDeepListening.Com under “video curricula.”

The IDL On Line Life Issue Interviewing Protocol

1: Similarities and Differences from the Dream Interviewing Protocol

Interviewing personifications of life issues that are important to you or your subject is basically the same as explained in the series of videos on interviewing dream characters. The main difference in the protocol is in how the characters are generated. This video explains the reasoning behind the creation of these interviewed perspectives.

2: Generation of the Personification of a Chosen Life Issue for Interviewing

This video explains how personifications of life issues are created by associating the chosen life issue with feelings, those feelings with a color or color filling one’s field of vision, and then spontaneously allowing those colors to congeal into a form, preferably an animal for subjects new to the process.

Introduction to Integral Deep Listening Guided Interviewing

   An IDL Short Guided Dream Interviewing Protocol

Interviewing your dream characters is a way to access perspectives that include yet transcend your own while integrating emerging potentials that point you toward the priorities of your own unique life compass. This short interviewing format can be stopped between questions to write down your answers. It can also be used to interview others as well. The full IDL video curricula can be found at Integral Deep Listening.Com

   An IDL Short Guided Life Issue Interviewing Protocol

Interviewing your life issues is a way to access perspectives that include yet transcend your own while integrating emerging potentials that point you toward the priorities of your own unique life compass. This video can be stopped between questions to write down your answers. It can also be used to interview others as well. The full IDL video curricula can be found at Integral Deep Listening.Com

  An IDL Regular Guided Dream Interviewing Protocol

Interviewing your dream characters is a way to access perspectives that include yet transcend your own while integrating emerging potentials that point you toward the priorities of your own unique life compass. This interviewing format includes questions regarding six core qualities that are essential to achieving a balanced life. The video can be stopped between questions to write down your answers. It can also be used to interview others as well. The full IDL video curricula can be found at Integral Deep Listening.Com

  An IDL Regular Guided Life Issue Interviewing Protocol

The interviewing of the personifications of life issues by Integral Deep Listening reveals our waking dramas, concerns, challenges, predicaments, and issues, whether personal or collective, past or future, secular or spiritual, are best approached as wake-up calls to be listened to respectfully and that respect demonstrated by the application in our lives of those recommendations that are made that make sense to us. This is how we both test the methodology and integrate the imaginal/subjective and the objectively real spheres of our experience. The IDL video curricula can be found at IntegralDeepListening.Com.

  An IDL Children’s Dream Character Interviewing Protocol

As soon as children are old enough to report dreams and take the perspective of a character, generally by four, their dream characters can be interviewed using this guided interviewing protocol. As explained in “Ending Nightmares for Good,” dreams and nightmares are different from night terrors, which are due to neurological developmental issues. However, even in those cases, the fear itself can be turned into an animal and interviewed, following the questions in the IDL life issue interviewing protocol. The IDL video curricula can be found at IntegralDeepListening.Com

  An IDL Children’s Life Issue Interviewing Protocol

Young children relate to life issues mainly in terms of feelings. If they are unhappy – sad, scared, confused, angry – those feelings can be expressed and integrated by having the child personify them as an animal and interviewing that animal. Unlike the children’s dream character interviewing protocol, this one includes asking for the scoring of six qualities that teach and develop interior balance. These can be left out, or, alternatively, these questions can be included in the interviewing of dreams and nightmares as well. The IDL video curricula can be found at IntegralDeepListening.Com

  An IDL Adolescent Dream Character Interviewing Protocol

Not only adolescents, but anyone can use this dream character interviewing protocol to access perspectives that include their own but are transpersonal, in that they add perspectives that also transcend one’s own, providing ways of both viewing the dream or nightmare, as well as one’s life issues, in ways that both make sense and reflect one’s own emerging potentials. The IDL video curricula is available at IntegralDeepListening.Com.

  An IDL Adolescent Life Issue Interviewing Protocol

This interview protocol is suitable for anyone over the age of ten or so – not just adolescents. It turns feelings associated with life issues important to you into colors and then shapes which are then interviewed. This format also contains questions regarding six core qualities that are fundamental for establishing and living a balanced life. The IDL video curricula is available at IntegralDeepListening.Com.

Reading Back the Interview

When the interview is read back as things that the subject is telling themselves, they hear statements that are authentic and true for them at a deeper level, which helps them to internalize and value what has been said. This reading back can therefore be a very impressive and meaningful experience.  While reading back the interview extends the session by perhaps ten or fifteen minutes, I have never had it not be very meaningful and worthwhile for the subject. 

The IDL On Line Dream Sociometry Interviewing Protocol (A)

1: Purposes of Dream Sociometry

2: Overview of the Dream Sociomatrix

3: Overview of the Dream Sociogram

4. Creating or Filling Out the Dream Sociomatrix

5. The Various Dream Sociometric Commentaries and their Purposes

6. Interpreting the Dream Sociogram

7. Conducting Research with Dream Sociometry

Introduction to Integral Deep Listening Guided Interviewing

If you want to interview characters from your dreams, nightmares, of life issues or those of someone else, or a child, the following videos in this series are of me asking the questions in the various interviewing protocols, followed by a pause for answers. Both short and a longer versions of the dream and life issue interviewing protocols are provided. In this video I explain the purpose and use of guided IDL interviews.

How We Use Our Defense Mechanisms to Sleepwalk and Avoid Waking Up

Defense mechanisms are emotionally-based reactions that are designed to increase control, security, and defend our sense of who we are and our worldview. In this video I examine ten major defense mechanisms and why they are important for Integral Deep Listening.

Why Recognizing Your Life Script is So Important: 1

A script is based on the memorized and rehearsed lines and directions that an actor exhibits to fulfill his role in a play or drama. Eric Berne, MD, the creator of Transactional Analysis, took this concept in the 1950’s and turned it into a powerful, important and very helpful way to understand why we keep making the same dysfunctional choices throughout our lives, choosing addictions over freedom, irrational beliefs over knowledge, wisdom, and common sense, and crazy-making drama over peace of mind. Your script is your life plan, developed for the most part out of your awareness during your childhood in response to the expectations, priorities, rewards and punishments of your familial and cultural environments. It is your internalized framework for making sense of your world, built into the foundation of your identity from before you knew how to talk. Think of your script as your means of navigating your way through life by filtering out that information that does not validate or support it. Your script determines what you look for regarding success, partnership and happiness. Your script determines who you think you are and what it means to succeed and fail. You see, hear, and respond to life in ways that validate your script and ignore, repress, or deny the presence, reality, or importance of those things, ideas, feelings, and people that challenge or threaten the assumptions of your life script.

Uncovering Your Life Script: 2

The following life script questionnaire, taken from Transactional Analysis, is designed to help you understand both how you were programmed out of your awareness for years when you were a child and the choices that you made based on that programming.

Games, the Drama Triangle, and Your Life Script: 3

Your “life position” reflects how you most fundamentally feel about yourself, others, and the world. Are you a good person or are you doomed to failure? Are others basically trustworthy and helpful or are they dangerous, not to be trusted? Is the world a good place or a realm of suffering and torment? These are simplified by Transactional analysis as “I’m OK,” “I’m not OK.” “You are OK;” “You are not OK.” We will be explaining the important and far reaching implications of these four life positions in a subsequent video. But first, to understand what the implications are of the four life positions you need to first understand the concept of “Games.”

Uncovering Your Life Position: 4

Four basic life positions, their importance, and their relationship to IDL are explained.

How Parental Injunctions and Counter Injunctions Create Your Life Script: 5

Your parental injunctions reside in your thoughts as critical self-talk left over from things you interpreted from your parents or elders when you were a child. In a sense, the formative figures from your childhood are still living rent-free inside your head as “parental voices” that you think are your own conscience. While their well-intended instructions are meant to function as parental guidelines for you to use to navigate through your life, these injunctions inside your head generally act instead as curses that cause you to mindlessly act as you were taught, rather than to behave in your own best interest. Guided by these internalized injunctions, you continue to think, feel and approach the world as a dependent child even though you are an adult, all the while certain you are not operating as a dependent child but as a free, independent adult. 

How Scripted “Acceptable” Feelings Create an Inauthentic Script: 6

In this video on your life scripting I want to share how superficial “good” feelings and repressed “bad” feelings created drama and rob life of intimacy.

Freeing Yourself from Your Life Script: 7

The Drama Triangle: Why it is Used By Integral Deep Listening

The Drama Triangle, consisting of the three roles of Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer, is a powerful concept for understanding how and why we are individually, culturally, and socially stuck as individuals and as collectives. This immersion in dysfunctional drama disrupts development, peace of mind, and transpersonal access not only in our waking relationships, but in our thoughts and night time dreams. Therefore, a clear understanding of this important concept as well as learning ways to avoid the Drama Triangle is fundamental to learning to listen in a deep and integral way not only to each other, but to ourselves.

The Role of Victim

Integral Deep Listening is designed to help you escape the Drama Triangle in the Three Realms: Relationships, your thoughts, and your night time dreams. In this video I explain how the role of Victim is different from victimization, how being in the role of Victim creates both Persecutors and the need for Rescuers. Strategies for escaping the Drama Triangle are discussed. This series on the Drama Triangle is part of the IDL video curricula, with an entire listing at IntegralDeepListening.Com.

The Role of Persecutor

Integral Deep Listening looks at the self-righteous abusiveness of the role of Persecutor from the perspectives of relationships, self-abusive thinking, and self-abusive night time dreams, and recognizes that it must be addressed in all three of these life realms if it is to be transcended. This is discussed in more detail in “Escaping the Drama Triangle in the Three Realms: Relationships, Thinking, Dreaming, by Joseph Dillard. The IDL video curricula can be found at IntegralDeepListening.Com.”>

The Role of Rescuer

Rescuers in the Drama Triangle are often sincere helpers. The problem is that their desire to use helping as validation of their self-worth causes them to impose what they think others need on them without asking for permission, checking to see if the help is actually beneficial, and not stopping – keeping on keeping on until burn out. We rescue ourselves with our addictions, pastimes, and rationalizations and in our dreams by avoiding conflict, ignoring and repressing them. IDL uses the Drama Triangle to help people wake up out of dreamlike delusion, whether awake or dreaming.

Dealing with Fallout from Leaving the Drama Triangle

When we decide we have had enough of the superficiality, duplicity, and abuse that is baked into the Drama Triangle and we decide it is time to leave it behind us, we are disrupting a long-standing way of living to which we and those around us have become well accustomed. Because our roles in the Drama Triangle interface with and co-originate with those of others, when we change how we talk, how we act, and how we deal with our feelings, others have to adjust. This video explores some of the challenges that can arise and how to deal with them.

Why it is Important in Your Life

There is no aspect of life that is not contaminated by the Drama Triangle. When we learn to recognize it in our personal, work, religious, political, and spiritual realms, as well as our thoughts and dreams, we gain an ability to make healthier choices that we did not possess when we were unaware of it and its pervasive influence in our lives. We can also learn to differentiate between those who offer solutions that simply switch us from one role to another as opposed to solutions that authentically move us out of the Drama Triangle.

Escaping the Drama Triangle 7: Identifying and Avoiding Target Words

“Target Words” are words that throw you into one of the three roles in the Drama Triangle. “Can’t” is the major word to avoid if you want to escape the Victim role in the Drama Triangle. “Always,” “never,” “should,” “ought,” “must,” “blame,” and “fault” are words to avoid if you want to escape the role of Persecutor. “Need” can throw you into the role of Rescuer. The reasons these words are so toxic are explained and suggestions made as to how to break our addiction to using them.

Identifying and Eliminating Your Cognitive Distortions: 1

Cognitive distortions are false, irrational, statements that we tell ourselves, often habitually and out of our awareness. Whenever you tell yourself a cognitive distortion you are putting yourself in the Drama Triangle. Cognitive distortions harm your relations with others by misperceiving their intentions and the nature of the relationship. They harm your self-image by distorting your perception of yourself. They turn your waking life into a dream of irrational self-delusion. Cognitive distortions also cause you to misperceive what you experience when you are dreaming. Dream experiences can cause you to unnecessarily feel anxious, sad, confused or guilty. Those night-time feelings, consciously forgotten, nevertheless can bleed over into your waking awareness, undercutting your efforts to improve yourself, bringing you down and moving you further away from health and inner peace. You are experiencing a cognitive distortion, for example, when you assume a monster in a dream is a threat. Such misperceptions cause you to draw inaccurate conclusions about dreaming, just as your waking cognitive distortions cause you to draw incorrect conclusions about yourself, people and life. Integral Deep Listening uses awareness and elimination of cognitive distortions as a way to get out of our own way so that we may hear others better, including our own emerging potentials and unique life compass.

Cognitive Distortions 2: Black and White and Polarized Thinking

When you are using the cognitive distortion of black and white, or polarized thinking, something or someone is all good or all bad. For example, you might think, “Either I vote for a corrupt politician or the other one, who is even more corrupt will win.” “Either I win or I am a loser.” “Either I succeed or everyone will reject me.” “Either I support my country or I am not patriotic.” “Either you make me happy or you don’t love me.” “You are either trustworthy and my friend or untrustworthy and my enemy.” In this video we discuss how Black and White thinking shows up in the Drama Triangle, dreams, and mystical experiences.

Cognitive Distortions 3: Overgeneralization

When you overgeneralize you are exaggerating because your feelings are emphatic. Because your feeling at the moment is absolute, the way you think about it is absolute as well. But while your pre-rational feeling can indeed be absolute at the moment, absolute thoughts about it are distortions. When you dream, and think you are awake when you are dreaming, that is a sort of generalization from waking into another state of consciousness. It’s not a thought, but a generalization of your experience. So just as you can overgeneralize your feelings you and I routinely overgeneralize our waking experience onto our dreams. We can easily believe falling in a dream will kill us, just as it would in real life. The result is that we respond to the experience of falling as if it were a waking threat, which is an experiential over-generalization and a cognitive distortion. This is the case regardless of the “threat” that you have in a dream. How do you know it’s a threat? Most likely, because you have drawn that conclusion from your waking experience, and you think you’re awake. You can find the entire IDL video curricula at IntegralDeepListening.Com.

Cognitive Distortions 4: Filtering

When you use the “Filtering” cognitive distortion, you ignore information and events that disprove your untrue or delusional beliefs, assumptions, and worldview. Filtering keeps you in the Drama Triangle by “rescuing” you from objectivity, clarity, evidence, facts and the truth. It’s like voluntarily wearing a blindfold and earplugs or walking around with Oculus simulated reality goggles on. As a result, you can maintain the feelings of righteous judgmentalism that often accompany self-criticism and self-persecution. At the same time, filtering validates staying stuck in the role of Victim. An excellent example of filtering is the social scripting you went through as a child. You were taught that in order to survive and grow within your family, you had to accept and internalize their worldview and values, including their cognitive distortions. For example, if you grew up with an alcoholic parent, you had to deal with the ensuing chaos somehow. Chances are, you distorted reality in one way or another to do so. filtering is also at work in your dreams. You filter your dreams because of your emotions, your world-view, your life scripting and your biology. The very nature of this filtering is to distort reality – but of course, only for your own safety and happiness! Consequently, filtering in dreams and mystical experiences is broader than the traditional concept of filtering for waking cognitive distortions. See IntegralDeepListening.Com for the entire IDL video curricula.

Cognitive Distortions 5: Jumping to Conclusions

When you use the “Jumping to Conclusions” cognitive distortion, you ignore information and events that disprove your untrue or delusional beliefs, assumptions, and worldview. Dream experience is mostly about jumping from one conclusion to the next without ever bothering to check to see if we are correct. When you make assumptions, both while dreaming and later, while awake, about the nature of your dream, without first asking questions and gathering information, you are jumping to conclusions. Therefore, most interpretive approaches to dreamwork involve the cognitive distortion of jumping to conclusions because they do not consult perspectives embedded in the dream itself. Even if the conclusion is positive, helpful and even transformational, as a tarot reading, psychic channeling, or dream interpretation can be, if you didn’t first ask questions and gather information, your conclusions are likely to be colored by this cognitive distortion. IDL attempts to counteract this perceptual habit by teaching you to interview dream characters, so that you can gain information that will allow you to draw realistic conclusions about them. For the entire IDL video curricula, see IntegralDeepListening.Com.

Cognitive Distortions 6: Catastrophization

“I always fail at love. I’m never going to find someone.”
Catastrophizing is not simply an exaggeration or filtering; it takes the worst possible outcome imaginable and treats it like it is a reality, as if that is what will inevitably happen. You do this in an attempt to be prepared for anything, but rather than preparing yourself, you simply scare yourself silly. We catastrophize to justify the avoidance of risk. We commonly do this during nightmares, but we also do it with national emergencies, like 9/11. Catastrophizing keeps us out of touch with our life compass and inner peace. If we don’t recognize it and defuse it, we will continue to scare ourselves needlessly, both awake and dreaming. The complete IDL video curricula can be found at IntegralDeepListening.Com.

Cognitive Distortions 7: Personalization

Personalization is an indicator of a person who thinks emotionally rather than rationally. One of the most destructive cognitive distortions, personalization prevents the development of empathy toward others and compassion toward yourself. Sometimes referred to as “adolescent girl syndrome,” personalization is painfully exaggerated self-consciousness. IDL calls it “psychological geocentrism,” because the world and reality revolves around us, our perceptions, and our feelings. Personalization is perhaps most easily seen in adolescence, when we are uncertain about who we are and are trying to find ourselves. We are constantly vigilant for cues from others as to whether we are “OK” or not. When you personalize, you assume that everything that others say must be about you. That is grandiose, narcissistic and egotistical. It’s also not true. The full video curricula can be found at IntegralDeepListening.Com.

Cognitive Distortions 8: Emotional Reasoning

 

Cognitive Distortions 9: The Fallacy of Fairness

The Fallacy of Fairness says life should be fair.
The tell for this cognitive distortion is when someone comes out with some version of,“That’s not fair!”
When you insist that life must be fair, you are assuming that your rules for life are the universe’s rules. How likely is that?

Cognitive Distortions 10: Blaming

Blaming is a cognitive distortion, because it is irrational. Taking responsibility is one thing, but blaming is another. Is it rational to blame yourself? If others represent those aspects of yourself that you project onto them, then to blame someone else is to persecute the parts of yourself that they represent. Is that what you want to do? If someone hurts you, is it wise for you to then turn around and hurt yourself by blaming? In addition, blaming is regressive. It’s behavior you mastered when you were five. When you blame, you are demonstrating your proficiency at five-year-old behavior. That’s fine, but what about your ability to act like an adult? Can you do that? It’s easy to be mature, competent, friendly and responsible when people are nice to you and when things are going well, but what about those times when people treat you badly or you are under pressure? Character is defined by how you act at such times, not by who you are when everything is either wonderful or cruising along on automatic. When you blame, you give somebody or something power over how you feel and what you can or cannot do. It’s their fault; therefore, you are claiming you are powerless in the face of God’s will, the government’s power or your boss’s policies. Is that smart? Is it rational? See IntegralDeepListening.Com for the complete IDL video curricula.

Cognitive Distortions 11: “Shoulding” On Yourself

Thinking or talking in terms of “shoulds,” “musts,” or “oughts” is a cognitive distortion, because it is based on the belief that shame, guilt and abuse are effective and worthwhile motivational tools. In the short term, they are effective, in that they get others to discipline themselves so that you don’t have to. If you can brainwash a child, spouse or employee into doing what you want them to do because they should, your life is much simpler. However, you are generating compliance based on fear. That reflects poorly on you and produces resistance in healthy children, spouses, workers and citizens. Shoulding is also a cognitive distortion, because it is dishonest and manipulative. If you love someone, you don’t attempt to scare them or make them feel guilty. Eliminating the persecution and self-persecution of “Should” is necessary if we are to get out of our own way, listen to and follow the priorities of our life compass. The IDL video Curricula can be found at IntegralDeepListening.Com.

Cognitive Distortions12: Fallacy of Change or “Waiting for Santa Claus”

This a cognitive distortion because it puts happiness in a future that does not yet exist and perhaps never will. That makes it impossible to be happy now, which is untrue, since you can choose to be happy now, regardless of how things turn out in the future. “Waiting for Santa Claus” gives your power away to someone else or to the future. Santa Claus can make you happy, but since he’s not here yet, you can’t be happy. Without the power to make yourself happy, you are helpless and hopeless, stuck in the role of the Victim in the Drama Triangle. The full EDO video curricula can be found at IntegralDeepListening.Com.

Cognitive Distortions 13: Global Labeling

A global label is a universal generalization about yourself, others or life itself. Why and how are these statements cognitive distortions? They are exaggerations, and exaggerations are untrue. When you say them, you make yourself wrong. You make it easy for other people to dismiss what you say, because you’ve already undercut your argument. They also put you in the role of the Persecutor in the Drama Triangle, necessitating an eventual descent into the role of the Victim. The complete IDL video curricula can be found at IntegralDeepListening.Com.

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Cognitive Distortions 15: Heaven’s Reward Fallacy

This cognitive distortion is based on the delusion that in the end, you’ll win. Heaven’s Reward Fallacy can effectively motivate you into a lifetime of irrational action. It has been used to justify cruelty, abuse, slavery and the withholding of basic human needs and rights from women and children for millennia. The other basic problem with Heaven’s Reward fallacy is that when you use it, you are not living for today. You are living and waiting for the day when you “come home,” and all accounts are made right. What is delusional about this is that there is no future. The only time that you are ever alive is now. If you are postponing living now until tomorrow, when tomorrow comes, you’ll postpone living until some other tomorrow. You will be like Sisyphus, Godot or the squirrel in the wheel, always going someplace but never getting there. You can find the complete IDL video curricula at IntegralDeepListening.Com.

Cognitive distortions 16: Control Fallacies

There are two types of control fallacies. The fallacy of external control says you are a victim of circumstances beyond your control. The fallacy of internal control says you are responsible for other people’s feelings and happiness. EXTERNAL control fallacies ignore the part that you play in how you think or feel, or in what happens to you. INTERNAL control fallacies ascribe too much responsibility and power to you over the lives of others. Whenever you feel out of control in a dream, you are probably using the external control aspect of this cognitive distortion. Whenever you blame yourself for dream events, you are probably trapped in the internal control aspect of this cognitive distortion. The complete IDL video curricula can be found at IntegralDeepListening.Com.

Cognitive Distortions 17: “I’m Right”

This a cognitive distortion, because it’s irrational to expect yourself to be right all the time. In addition to it being impossible, it’s not healthy. You learn from your mistakes and failures. As noted above, your character is determined more by how you handle yourself in times of challenge, than by how much of the time you are right. It takes a lot of energy to be right all the time, energy that could be better spent enjoying life. With this cognitive distortion, you’re always fighting against parts of yourself that you think are a mistake or a failure. Is that wise? You can find a complete listing of the IDL video curricula at IntegralDeepListening.Com.

Cognitive Distortions 18: The Pre/Trans Fallacy

The Pre/Trans Fallacy is a fallacy and cognitive distortion discovered and elucidated by Ken Wilber in his Integral AQAL (All quadrants, all lines, all levels, all states, all styles) worldview. It says that people typically either take the pre-rational and prepersonal and mistake it for the mystical and transpersonal, which is called “elevationism,” or else discount and reduce the authentically transpersonal by seeing nothing higher than their stage of development, and generally placing it lower developmentally than their own worldview, in “reductionism.” Wilber cites Jung as an example of the first, elevationism, and Freud as an example of the second, but more generally, whenever state access is confused with a higher stage of self development, that is elevationism, and whenever state experience, regardless how transcendent, is reduced to the irrational and prepersonal, that is reductionism. IDL attempts to avoid both of these with triangulation, a concept explained in the IDL video curricula, to be found at IntegralDeepListening.Com.

Cognitive Distortions: Summary: Getting Rid of Your Cognitive Distortions

Cognitive distortions are so important as a barrier to happiness, peace of mind, and global health that it is worth taking the time to focus on concrete steps you can take to get them out of your life, once and for all.
First, assume everything you think is one or another of the above cognitive distortions until proven otherwise. This step is necessary, because if you aren’t on the lookout for your cognitive distortions, you won’t see them. Beware of the fear that you will then fall into some sort of fatalism, in which everything is a cognitive distortion and that there is no escape from them, something that some people do with the concept of the Drama Triangle as well. This is where IDL interviewing comes in, because it keeps you in touch with perspectives that are, in relationship to you, regardless of how “clear” you may think you are, are relatively free of cognitive distortions.

Identifying and Defusing Your Cognitive Biases: 1

Cognitive biases are inherited perceptual generalizations designed for making better, quicker decisions in a traditional natural and tribal environment. However, we no longer live in a natural or tribal environment, so many of these cognitive biases work against adaptation and waking up. Recognizing and counteracting the most problematic of them is important for any transpersonal yoga.

Identifying and Defusing Your Cognitive Biases: 2

In this, our second video on our hard-wired cognitive biases that create distortions in our perception of others, dreams, and our world, we will take a look at the In-Group, Gambler’s, Post-Purchase, and Neglecting Probability Biases.

Identifying and Defusing Your Cognitive Biases: 3

In this video we discuss the FUNDAMENTAL ATTRIBUTION ERROR or the “AVOIDANCE OF RESPONSIBILITY” BIAS , the MORAL LUCK BIAS, the FALSE CONSENSUS BIAS, the JUST WORLD HYPOTHESIS and the DUNNING-KRUGER EFFECT, or the “False Confidence” bias. More information about the IDL video curricula can be found at IntegralDeepListening.Com

Identifying and Defusing Your Cognitive Biases: 4

In this video we discuss the PROJECTION, or “MINI ME” BIAS, the CURRENT MOMENT BIAS, the HALO EFFECT, or “GEE, YOU’RE WONDERFUL!” BIAS, and the SELF-SERVING BIAS.

Identifying and Defusing Your Cognitive Biases: 5

In this video we deal with the FUNDAMENTAL ATTRIBUTION ERROR or the “AVOIDANCE OF RESPONSIBILITY” BIAS, the MORAL LUCK BIAS, the FALSE CONSENSUS BIAS, the JUST WORLD HYPOTHESIS and the DUNNING-KRUGER EFFECT. A listing of the entire IDL video curricula can be found at IntegralDeepListening.Com.

Identifying and Defusing Your Cognitive Biases: 6

In this, the sixth video in this series on Cognitive biases, we discuss REACTANCE, the AVAILABILITY CASCADE , the  PLACEBO EFFECT, CRYPTOMNESIA, The BLIND SPOT BIAS, 

NAIVE CYNICISM , and the SPOTLIGHT EFFECT BIAS. Be on the lookout for all of the biases in this series not only in yourself and those in your life, but in those others you interview. While they may be observed in dreams, your subjects will also experience them in their waking lives.  For the entire listing of the video curricula, see IntegralDeepListening.Com. 

Identifying Logical Fallacies: Why It is so Important

1: Ad Hominem

2. Changing the Subject (Straw Man)

3. Other logical fallacies

Setting Realistic and Achievable Goals

Applying Recommendations the SMART Way

Deep Listening for Problem Solving: Triangulation

Seven Octaves of Transformation: IDL Pranayama

The Importance of Setting Intention

   Core IDL Values

    Gratitude

    Cosmic Humor

    Luminosity

Applications (A)

Integral Deep Listening for Kids

     Why you need to interview the children in your world.

     Why the children in your world need to interview YOU.

     Why Children Learn IDL Quicker than Therapists, Counselors, and Psychiatrists

IDL for Stress Management

Addressing Childhood Trauma

ADHD

Anxiety Disorders

Phobias

Depression

Personality Disorders

Interpersonal issues

What to do if your Subject has a “Melt Down” in the Middle of an Interview

In this video I want to share with you what to do if someone throws you a real curve ball in the middle of an interview of a dream character or the personification of some life issue.
It’s not unusual for beginners to think, “What if they start to sob uncontrollably in the middle of an interview?” “What if they decompensate or go psycho?” “What if they get taken over by the character and go into full-blown possession?” “What if I suddenly find myself way out of my depth?” While this is very unlikely to occur, sometimes our catastrophic expectations cause us to not even learn to trust the process, so it is good to address underlying fears head on and do our best to defuse them.

Correcting Common Misunderstandings of IDL Interviewing (A)

Roles vs Perspectives

Unconscious vs Receptivity

Shadow vs Polycentrism

Truth vs broadened perspective

Self-aspects vs indeterminate ontology

Interviewed perspectives are entities/things

Divine/Secular dualism vs Multi-Perspectivalism

Objective reality vs indeterminate ontology

Self perspectives vs polycentrism/multi-perspectivalism

Insight/Catharsis/“I already knew that” vs reconsidered priorities

Quick, SuddenTransformation vs learning to walk/talk

Non-reversibility vs the adaptive resilience of habit/addiction

Polycentrism is better than controlling identity

Lucidity/waking up is better than being unaware

   Most developmental/rejuvenation processes occur precisely because we are unaware

Evolution means less pain

Enlightenment is more important than ethical grounding

Compassion/love/truth are more important than empathy

IDL and Lucid Dreaming

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