Building Your Dream Life

How do you stop yourself from creating the life of your dreams?  Do you ever wonder if you would be selfish if you did?  Do you ever let your fears of what others might think stop you?  If you do, don’t feel so special.  So does most anyone else that is sincere and has a conscience.

What are three fundamental life issues that you are dealing with now in your life?

1. Having a good trip with Kira (my daughter is coming for a three-week graduation visit.  We’ll be camping in Germany, the Czech Republic, and Austria and touring Berlin, Dresden, Prague, Vienna, Salzburg, and Munich.)

2. Getting IDL to kids and their caregivers everywhere

3. Income for insurance and marketing

Tell me a dream you remember.  It can be an old one, a repetitive dream, a nightmare, or one that you’re sure you understand.

I am preparing to build a pyramid completely of trash, of recyclable materials.  I was told that it couldn’t be done by some authoritative woman, but clearly it could be done.  The question was how large it could practically be, since there was no functional limit to how large it could be.  It had something to do with Avatar.  The sense was that this was very innovative and useful, and permanent, yet meant to be temporary, easily destroyed, replaceable, and duplicatable, regardless of the size. I feel confident, like I have done this before, but on a much smaller scale.

Why do you think that you had this dream?

There’s nothing that I remember from Avatar that has to do with pyramids or building completely recyclable structures.

If it were playing at a theater, what name would be on the marquee?

Useful Innovation or a Tower of Babel?

These are the characters in the dream…

Dream Self, recyclables, pyramid, authoritative woman

If one character had something especially important to tell you, which would it be?


Now remember how as a child you liked to pretend you were a teacher or a doctor?  It’s easy and fun for you to imagine that you are the shape that took form from your color and answer some questions I ask, saying the first thing that comes to your mind.  If you wait too long to answer, that’s not the character answering – that’s YOU trying to figure out the right thing to say!

Pyramid, would you please tell me about yourself and what you are doing?

It depends on where I am in the dream.  In some places I’m one or more previously built pyramids out of trash, proving the concept.  In others I am the idea of this particular one.  But generally, I am the idea of such a possibility, in whatever stage of development.  I’m in the process of being created and re-created.

What do you like most about yourself? What are your strengths?

My enduring potential.  I am useful and innovative.  My practicality.

What do you dislike most about yourself? Do you have weaknesses?  What are they?

No, none.

Pyramid, you are in Joseph’s life experience, correct?  He created you, right? Pyramid, what aspect of Joseph do you represent or most closely personify?

His potentials and his ability to manifest innovative, creative, functional, and useful ones at any scale he wants.  He just has to decide how much he can practically take on.

Pyramid, if you could be anywhere you wanted to be and take any form you desired, would you change?  If so, how?

It would be clearer that I am multi-purpose: on a small scale, I am inexpensive yet efficient, effective, and lasting structure for the poor anywhere.  I can be used equally well as a school, office, research facility, industrial complex, recreational facility, or governmental structure at whatever scale.  I could also be used for ceremonial or religious purposes or as a memorial, but those are relatively static purposes and are developmentally relatively less important.

(Continue, answering as the transformed object, if it chose to change.)

Pyramid, how would you score yourself 0-10, in confidence, compassion, wisdom, acceptance, peace of mind, and witnessing?  Why?

Confidence: 10 I am meant to be destroyed and be replaced so I have no fear of death.  I can be pretty much whatever I want to be, based on the materials at hand and the function required.

Compassion: 10 My adaptability and versatility makes me very useful by anyone, without discrimination, which is pretty useful.

Wisdom: 10 I am just a building, so I don’t need to be wise.  However, I am the expression and manifestation of great wisdom and much consideration.

Acceptance: 10 What’s there not to accept?  I’m just clever junk!

Inner Peace: 10 I enjoy watching what people think of me, do with me, and what becomes of me.

Witnessing: 10 As above.

How would the life of the person who created you be different if he naturally scored high in all six of these qualities all the time?

He would give less consideration to “authoritative voices” that tell him what he can’t or shouldn’t do but without foundation and which can and will change their minds when confronted with the reality of what is possible.

If you could live the life of the person who created you for him, how would you live it differently?

Not worry about how other people view him.  Not worry about being grandiose or taking on too much.  Continue to do what he has found to work and to be useful and effective.

If you could live Joseph’s waking life for him today, would you handle his three life issues differently?  If so, how?

1. Be me.  He will feel more solid, yet versatile, effective, and useful in his nature, which means that he won’t feel that he has to prove or demonstrate it to his daughter by over planning the trip or complicating it by attempting to anticipate everything that might happen or go wrong.

2. Regarding helping children, continue to be me and build me, with the plan or blueprint already in hand.  Forget about time pressure or how much there is to get done.  I don’t think that way and I don’t operate that way.  I’m quality stuff and quality stuff ends up being respected and duplicated far and wide.

3. Regarding money, how much money does it take to collect and build with junk?  It doesn’t take money so much as teamwork.  The more hands you have at the process the larger the scale.

What three life issues would you focus on if you were in charge of his life?

1. Make it as easy as possible for others to understand what I am about and to build their own version of me for their own purposes.  All of those are actually aspects of the me you are constructing, as I am made up of an endless number of smaller pyramids.  It’s spiritualized multi-level marketing.

2. Continue to build me out of the “threes” you already use: awakening, absurdity, abundance, (your adaption of the Three Jewels of Buddhism) persecutor, victim, rescuer, (the Drama Triangle), truth, beauty, goodness, (the Socratic Triad and your elaboration of it in the six core qualities and processes), thesis, antithesis, synthesis (the three basic types of intrasocial patterns found in Dream Sociograms), breath (inhalation, exhalation, pause).

3. Quality.

In what life situations would it be most beneficial for this person to imagine that they are you and act as you would?

Only when he wants to feel good about himself and who he is, and what he does.

Why do you think that you are in this person’s life?

To help wake him up to the awareness that it’s never grandiose to attempt to realize your dreams and to help others to do the same, despite the fact that there will always be people who will see it as grandiose.  What you do with me is your business; what they do with me is their business.

How is this person most likely to ignore what you are saying to them?

By thinking small.  By thinking he is small. And thinking you are big is also small.

What would you recommend that they do about that?

Just be me!  I am awake, absurd, and abundant.  What else do you need?

I think this person had this dream because

He sometimes tries too hard, to force the river, out of his desire to get it right and not screw up and to avoid the criticism of others, particularly strong women he respects.  That goes way back.

I think this dream event happened or (some character) was in the dream because…

The “Avatar” reference is about the ability to create the life of your dreams within the context of a struggle between grandiose exploitation and natural, selfless development.

What have you heard yourself say?

To let go and relax and be!

If this experience were a wake-up call from your soul, what do you think it would be saying to you?

To first and foremost enjoy the process of life, which will make everything come together much easier!

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