If passivity is putting the needs of others before your own and aggression is putting your needs before the needs of others, then assertiveness is the art of balancing the two.
If you get anxious or depressed, the most likely reason is what you are telling yourself about yourself, others and life. Emotional Cognitive Distortions are irrational ways of thinking that create anxiety and depression. The fastest and easiest way to improve the quality of life I know is to change how you think by getting rid of them.
A single IDL interview can change a lifelong association of helplessness with fear into something positive and constructive. How would Josefine’s life have been different if she had this interview when she was ten?
“Stop with the bad conscience! Give unfriendly people a double whack! Don’t be afraid of what’s coming back! My lizard recommended armor. I should imagine being him when I am talking to unfriendly people. In case of emergencies I am allowed to bite, without having a bad conscience!”
The arrow that personifies Catie’s lack of impulse control is a metaphorical expression of how she relates to her anger and her irritability, and its transformation points to interesting ways that she can change the way that she relates to her temper, her irritability and her frustrations.
Becoming Rain to Transcend Anger Escaping the drama of your life Unearthing Treasures from the 50’s Mud Puddle to Ocean: From Passivity to Assertiveness Meeting George Washington Sacrificing a Bull Woman to Public Opinion Becoming Assertive A Lizard Teaches Assertiveness Learning to Stop Reacting and Control Your Temper
Most dreams that we remember seem so trivial as to not be worth remembering.
This is an excellent example of how IDL can throw relevant, significant light on dreams from many years before. In this case, it explains the how and why of a dream that repeated many times over many years. Coincidentally, it is another interview that throws light on water as an often misperceived and misunderstood … Read more
What can we learn from the parts of ourselves that are represented in the dream by its characters? Perhaps we should consult them before jumping to conclusions about what dreams are about.
“This is about you recognizing that most people think their dreams can’t come true today, so they never realize them. This is about making your dreams come true in your consciousness today, now, in the midst of your hectic life.”
Don’t waste much time with dreaming dreams of victimization. Look for a way out of the drama. Some IDL dream interviews emphasize healing. Others emphasize balance. Others emphasize transformation. This one emphasizes all three.