Nightmares are best viewed as wake-up calls that are powerful tools for moving you into greater lucidity, both awake and dreaming. Here is one example.
(From Dillard, J. Escaping the Drama Triangle in the Three Realms: Waking, Thinking and Dreaming.) You probably work hard during the day to eat right, exercise, maintain a positive attitude, treat others with respect, not react, and generally be a good person. You can go to workshops and therapy, go to bed feeling good and still … Read more
Without conscience you are an animal, without guidance, ethics, morals, or social norms. If you would only listen to it and follow it, you would be happy. Humanity’s perversity is its failure to listen to and do the bidding of its conscience.
If you get anxious or depressed, the most likely reason is what you are telling yourself about yourself, others and life. Emotional Cognitive Distortions are irrational ways of thinking that create anxiety and depression. The fastest and easiest way to improve the quality of life I know is to change how you think by getting rid of them.
Most of the time we are doing drama but thinking that we are problem solving or moving toward our goals. What to do?
I want to share with you a remarkable first interview with a new student of Integral Deep Listening (IDL), who we will call Ted. The night before our first Skype appointment he asked for a dream that would help him to understand how and why he is so stuck in his life. Here are Ted’s … Read more
The Empowerment Dynamic generates behavior that is solution-focused in relationship to behavior within the Drama Triangle, which is problem-focused.
Some words put you in the Drama Triangle, whether you speak them or think them. You can’t use them and stay out of the Drama Triangle. You can’t use them and have inner peace.
A single IDL interview can change a lifelong association of helplessness with fear into something positive and constructive. How would Josefine’s life have been different if she had this interview when she was ten?
“You need to grow in your definition of love. It has to include boundaries, because otherwise your love is misunderstood as weakness and an invitation for abuse.”