Escaping Drama

17 Feb

How the Drama Triangle in Your Dreams Affects Your Health

(From Dillard, J. Escaping the Drama Triangle in the Three Realms: Waking, Thinking and Dreaming.) You probably work hard during the day to eat right, exercise, maintain a positive attitude, treat others with respect, not react, and generally be a good person.  You can go to workshops and therapy, go to bed feeling good and still wake up feeling anxious and out of sorts. How come?

16 Feb

Conscience and the Drama Triangle

Without conscience you are an animal, without guidance, ethics, morals, or social norms. If you would only listen to it and follow it, you would be happy. Humanity’s perversity is its failure to listen to and do the bidding of its conscience. ...

18 Jan

Recognizing and Eliminating Your Emotional Cognitive Distortions

If you get anxious or depressed, the most likely reason is what you are telling yourself about yourself, others and life. Emotional Cognitive Distortions are irrational ways of thinking that create anxiety and depression. The fastest and easiest way to improve the quality of life I know is to change how you think by getting rid of them. ...

10 Jan

Getting Your Life Back On Track

Most of the time we are doing drama but thinking that we are problem solving or moving toward our goals. What to do? ...

01 Jan

Getting Your Life Back on Track

I want to share with you a remarkable first interview with a new student of Integral Deep Listening (IDL), who we will call Ted.  The night before our first Skype appointment he asked for a dream that would help him to understand how and why he is so stuck in his life. Here are Ted’s life issues and his dream, followed by his comments about it followed by my translation of the comments of two interviewed dream characters and comments about...

16 Nov

Freeing Yourself from the Drama Triangle

The Empowerment Dynamic generates behavior that is solution-focused in relationship to behavior within the Drama Triangle, which is problem-focused. ...

30 Jan

Learning Assertiveness From a Black Hole in Space

A single IDL interview can change a lifelong association of helplessness with fear into something positive and constructive. How would Josefine’s life have been different if she had this interview when she was ten? ...