Waking Fear and Anxiety

18 Jan

Recognizing and Eliminating Your Emotional Cognitive Distortions

If you get anxious or depressed, the most likely reason is what you are telling yourself about yourself, others and life. Emotional Cognitive Distortions are irrational ways of thinking that create anxiety and depression. The fastest and easiest way to improve the quality of life I know is to change how you think by getting rid of them. ...

01 Jan

Getting Your Life Back on Track

I want to share with you a remarkable first interview with a new student of Integral Deep Listening (IDL), who we will call Ted.  The night before our first Skype appointment he asked for a dream that would help him to understand how and why he is so stuck in his life. Here are Ted’s life issues and his dream, followed by his comments about it followed by my translation of the comments of two interviewed dream characters and comments about...

12 Dec

Locked Out in the Cold, Nude!

Rather than dismissing nightmares as “day residue” or some sort of “psychic indigestion, Integral Deep Listening (IDL) demonstrates that they act as “wake up calls” that when listened to, are transformational. ...

20 Nov

A Flying Snake Builds Confidence!

How do you build confidence in a teenager to help them stop comparing themselves to others, get over possessiveness, and find themselves? Here is the solution that presented itself for this seventeen year old young man: become a ten meter long flying green snake! ...

16 Nov

Using a Fear of Drowning to Wake Up

All of us have a basic choice: Do we want to stay stuck in our present, limited perspective or cultivate alternatives that create freedom? The amazing thing is how easy it is to access perspectives that are not only powerfully transformative, but practical and realistic. ...

13 Nov

Surfing Your Way Out of Fear

We all have things that keep us from surfing through life, but few of us have the excuse of having our arm bitten off by a shark. Would you get back up on your board if that happened to you? ...

03 Nov

Healing life-long fears

“I encourage Yutta to see her life as a film to laugh about or cry about but not take too seriously. Don’t take anything personally! She should become me when she feels insecure or not wanted, or needs confidence. I have come into her life to wake her up to knowing she is wanted and secure!” ...

30 Oct

Transforming Chronic Fear

It’s not easy to get over intense, chronic fears.  They are adaptive mechanisms that have survival value.  To ignore them or to pretend that they do not exist rarely works. Imagine that you were Toby, who had a cardiac arrest on an airplane when he was a teenager and has been afraid of flying ever sense. What would you do? Integral Deep Listening (IDL) encourages us to face our fears and listen to what they have to say to us. ...