Monthly Archives: September 2010

29 Sep

Getting Out of the Swamp of Your Life

In the above picture, we may assume that the boy is helping his stuck horse. But what if it’s the other way around? What if the horse has come to help the boy get unstruck? That’s the situation that we find in this interview, in which a kind and intelligent businessman lacks the confidence to cold call potential business clients ...

28 Sep

Is Your Critical Self Talk Ruining Your Life?

The devil part of Luna thinks she is stupid to allow herself to be scared by it. It sees the proper response as self-confidence and to give up playing the victim. It makes clear that it represents her own highly self-critical self-talk that makes her wrong and scared. It recommends that she just ignore her self-critical self-talk. If she does, it predicts that it will go away. ...

27 Sep

The Devil On Your Shoulder

This is an interview I wish I could do with every child or adolescent.  It is so classic that I think most children can see themselves in it, and most adults as well.  We all have a “devil” sitting on our shoulder telling us we can’t, shouldn’t, or won’t. The beauty of Integral Deep Listening, particularly for a child who is suffering from such self-criticism and fear of failure is that after they have done an interview they have...

16 Sep

Synchronicity and Life Support

Synchronicity is a term coined by the great psychologist, Carl Jung to indicate events that are obviously closely connected but which have no causal relationship.  An example would be thinking about your mother as she is calling you on the phone. In the following example, the synchronicity occurred in three areas: 1) dream content, 2) an interview of the dream emailed to me, and 3) the way I first experienced the interview.  All three of these time-space dimensions came together...

13 Sep

Understanding Repeating Dream Motifs

While we are all familiar with the idea of the hidden within becoming expressed or manifested in our exterior reality, what is interesting about this interview is that it compares the process to molecular structures repeated to the place that they impact the macro or social realms. It implies that this is the way that seed potentials sprout and grow within us. ...

08 Sep

Inner Help With a Flying Phobia

By “becoming” and listening to these three aspects Toby reminds himself of who he potentially is. He also hears that there is not only an internal support system always there for him, but that there is an internal consensus, at least among these self-aspects regarding a course of action. ...

07 Sep

Balancing Being and Doing

How is it that we so easily return to our habits of mind and feeling, to our scripting, to our likes and dislikes, to our drama, rather than staying with those parts of ourselves that are at peace? ...

06 Sep

Dealing With Powerful True Believers

The problem in dealing with True Believers is that they have their minds made up and any alternative world view threatens theirs. In our grandiosity we often think, “I will become a True Believer. Once they see how wonderful I am and how much I have to offer that will help them, they will listen to me and change.” This generally amounts to self-delusion, wasted time and wasted effort. ...